Overworked and stressed already?
Perhaps you are juggling a working life with a family life, or perhaps you feel like there’s just not enough hours in a day?
The Christmas period seems to start earlier every year – looking around the town and online it is already upon us and it’s still only November! Even with a few weeks to go, do you feel stressed or even overwhelmed with how much you have to do?
If you have a look around on the internet you’ll find lots of people offering to coach you through this – they even pop up on Facebook ads now so there is no escape. It just goes to show what a problem it is for people – spawning all these new businesses! So with all the stuff that’s out there – usually pretty basic stuff too – what advice can I, as a Psychologist, pass on?
First of all, recognise that you have an issue with constant busyness and that it leads to inevitable overwhelm. How many of these ‘busyness’ behaviours do you recognise?
- Multitasking – “I am listening to you, I’m just quickly replying to this email/message/doing something else”
- Time Management – “I have to finish this so I’ll just work through my lunch/take it home/cancel my day off/use my only free time”
- Messy workspace or home environment – “I know I have stuff everywhere, but I know where things are”
- Unfocused – “I check my social media in case I miss something – I try not to get too distracted from what I’m supposed to be doing”
- Being too available to everyone – “If you need to reach me, then just phone/message/email me and I’ll get right back to you”
Recognise any of these? They can apply to your work or your home life, or perhaps both!
Did you realise that the happiest, most successful people are relaxed and take things in their stride because they have firm boundaries around working time and personal time?
This includes the distinction between work you do in the home (housework, childcare, chores) versus the things you enjoy – the stuff that nurtures you and feels good.
The happiest, most successful people are not constantly busy. They prioritise their time in a healthy way. They don’t stay late at the office and they always take all of their holiday entitlement. They take days off. They enjoy their weekends. They spend evenings at home with their family, making time to relax or socialising, not constantly buried in a laptop, paperwork, their phone or endless chores. They ensure they make time for quality sleep. They make time to eat mindfully – enjoying a meal rather than being engrossed in something else. If this doesn’t sound like you, but you’d like it to be – you now know what you need to do!
If you need help with that, then have a read through some of my previous blogs or get in touch to find out about how you can work with me.
I am Susan Tibbett, a Chartered Psychologist and Personal Development Specialist based in York. You can reach me at http://www.mindmakeoveruk.com